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Love
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Infatuation
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Tends to occur first in late teens and in the twenties.
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Tends to be more frequent among younger adolescents and children under teen age.
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Attachment simultaneously to two or more tends not to be frequent.
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Simultaneous attachments to two or more tends to be frequent.
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Most cases last over a long period of time.
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Tends to last but a short time. (Only a few weeks)
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More slowly develops again after a love affair has ended.
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More quickly occurs soon after a given involvement has ended.
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Often used to refer to present love affair.
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Is often the term applied to past attachments.
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Object of affection is more likely a suitable person.
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Object of affection is more frequently an unsuitable person.
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Parents tend to approve.
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Parents more often disapprove.
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Broadly involves entire personality.
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Narrowly focused on a few traits mostly physical thrill.
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Brings new energy and ambition, and more interest in life.
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Less frequently accompanied by ambition and wide interests.
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Associated with feelings of self-confidence, trust and security.
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Feelings of guilt, insecurity, and frustration are frequent.
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Accompanied by kinder feelings toward other people in general.
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Tends to be self-centered and restricted.
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Joy in many common interests and an ongoing association, developing interests, and deepening feelings.
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Boredom is frequent when there is no sexual excitement or social amusement.
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Relationship changes and grows with ongoing association, developing interests.
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Little change in the relationship with passing of time.
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Accompanied by willingness to face reality and to tackle problems realistically.
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Problems and barriers are often disregarded; idealization may have little regard for reality.
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1. Your partner says that if you don’t it means,
“you don’t love me.”
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A person who loves you doesn’t push you into doing things you don’t feel right about doing. A person who loves you respects your beliefs.
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2. All your friends do it.
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Maybe all your friends just say they do it. Studies shows that by age 16, only 20 in 100 girls have had intercourse even once. By age 20, 66 in 100 girls have had intercourse. LOTS OF GIRLS DON’T HAVE INTERCOURSE.
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3. It proves you’re grown up.
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What proves you’ve grown up is deciding what you believe is right and sticking to your beliefs.
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4. You’re just curious.
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Curiosity is a pretty poor reason to pretend about another person just so you can try out intercourse.
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5. You want to lose your virginity– just get it over with.
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Think about what that attitude says about how much you respect your own body!
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6. You want sound “ in the know” like everybody else.
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Most people who sound “in the know” aren’t. Read Reason 2 again. It makes more sense to (1) tell the truth or (2) keep quite. (Most people think you know more than you know when you keep quiet.
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7. You “owe it” to a date who buys you a nice dinner or takes you to a nice place.
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Return the favor! Nest time, you pick up the check at one of those nice places.
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8. You won’t get any dates if you don’t
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You might not get any dates with people who only want to use your body, but who needs that?
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